It might seem odd to you, but I wasn’t really all that
excited at the prospect. I’ve met a lot of people, and while this one ranked as
likely the biggest “celebrity” of any I have met I still wasn’t all that
enthused. I was happy to have the opportunity, of course, but I was less than
excited. After all, this celebrity is a performer, and not all performers are
great intellects, or even all that pleasant. As often happens though I am not only happy to
say I was proved wrong...but delighted to be so very, very wrong.
The celebrity in question? International star Bill Cosby,
who was brought to Fort McMurray through Northern Insights, the speaker program
from the Fort McMurray Public Library. This program has already brought
intellect and author Malcolm Gladwell to town, and in the future will bring
Arlene Dickinson – but last night on the stage was entertainer, superstar,
comedic genius – and intellect – Bill Cosby.
I’d seen The Cosby Show, of course, and heard many of his
comedy routines. I’d even read a few things he had written, but none of that
prepared me to meet the man behind the superstar. I was part of the media meet
and greet, and those who had met him just prior to my meeting told me stories
of his charm.
We were ushered right into his dressing room, other members
of the media and myself. There he sat, in a large leather chair, and as the
bench was full of other media the library staff suggested I sit on the leather
sofa next to him. I sat down, just one person between the man and myself, and
when I sat the skirt I had been wearing that day slid up slightly, revealing a
bit of thigh through the side slit. I caught his eye when he dryly said to me “flashing
me is unfair”. I believe I almost swallowed my tongue, as his wit was obviously
just as crisp as ever, and his eye for detail untarnished by age. We went
through a few questions with him, and his ability to handle (and direct) a
media scrum was immediately apparent as he deftly fielded questions (although
always, always providing an answer with a twist). He answered queries about his
career, and his comedy, and he did so with grace, and dignity – and humour.
What I observed while in that room for a brief twenty
minutes was a man who may have aged but who has not dimmed in any regard. I was
anxious to see him on stage, because I suspected his quiet dressing
room demeanour would explode into onstage hilarity – and I was correct.
I left his dressing room in awe of this man, and joined the
Intrepid Junior Blogger who already had seats for us. I was delighted when I
discovered Phil Meagher was introducing him, because Phil is one of our
resident comedians, a local smarty-pants who always has a quick quip at the ready, and
I was eager to see the banter between them. I was not disappointed as Phil was
quickly “schooled” by the master of comedy, a wit and genius that cannot easily
be matched. And then, when Phil left the stage and Cosby sat there at a table,
the fun really began.
Cosby spoke for an hour, and it was a fairly wide range of
topics addressed. He spoke of family, and his wife. He told stories of the
past, and one of the funniest for me was when he spoke of an incident with his
then ten year old daughter and his wife. The daughter was being a typical
preteen girl, and he riffed into a bit about teenagers that rang very true for
me, how they can never find anything and instead scream for mom (being a mom I
am quite familiar with this phenomenon,
and recall one frantic phone call asking me to come home from an event
because someone’s mascara had gone missing).
He covered a lot of ground, and reacted to the audience who
would occasionally shout things out. One of those moments was when he spoke
about what he would tell others about his experience here, and someone shouted
out the words “big spirit”. It was delightful to see him quickly grasp the
impact of these words, and to see him incorporate it into his routine. And
while I enjoyed his talk I think it was the following question and answer
session I enjoyed the most.
You see while Cosby shines during a monologue it is perhaps
his interaction with others that is the most intriguing. What interested me
most is that when he is asked a question the answer often doesn’t seem to fit
the question. I’ve seen this before, though. My father, in his later years,
would often provide answers that didn’t seem connected to the questions he was
asked. And it wasn’t that he was senile, or that he wasn’t listening. It was
because he had reached the point in his life where the answers he gave were the
ones he felt needed to be given, regardless of the questions asked. He felt he
had a finite amount of time left, and the time he needed to share what he had
learned of life was running out. And so he would be asked a question, and the
answer, while perhaps being related, was often not quite what was asked. Yet it
all made sense if you just listened to the answer, because he was telling you
not what you had asked for, but what he wanted and needed you to hear. And so
too it was with Cosby, both when he answered questions during the media meet
and greet and when he did the audience Q&A. Instead of looking for the
answers to the questions asked one needed to listen to the words he said –
because while it might have seemed to be disconnected he was sharing with us
what he felt we need to know.
And some of his answers intrigued me. There was the man who,
before he even asked his question, commented that we must finally be becoming
something because we had guests of the kind of Bill Cosby – and Cosby stopped
him immediately, telling him that we had to stop that, stop acting like we are
nothing, because, of course, we are something, and we are something even
without Bill Cosby or other performers or entertainers. Do we have a good
mayor, he asked? Do we have good schools, he inquired? If we do then we already
ARE something, and we are something good. I would go even further. Do we have a good
community? Do we have strength in our social profit sector? Do we have citizens
who are passionate about the place we call home? The answer to all this is, of
course, yes.
Cosby shared a lot last night. He shared thoughts on crime
and punishment (thoughts and beliefs I happen to share, as I think it is not
nearly as black and white as we wish it was), and on his favourite scene from
the movie “On The Waterfront” (a movie I too have seen more than once). He
spoke about how we need to talk about our issues, admit them, and confront them
– because silence is a crucifixion, just as a character in that favourite scene
of his explains. And so too that rang true for me, because in this community
with all the opportunities and potential we still have issues, and ones that we
must continue to discuss.
I chose the title of this post for one reason. Cosby
mentioned the line that is in the title, because it too comes from “On the
Waterfront”. While he said it is not his favourite line it is one that is very
popular, and it speaks to me for several reasons. One of the reasons is because
Fort McMurray is not a “coulda been” contender. We are a contender, in every
conceivable way. We are something because of the strength of our community, our
economy, and our industry. We are a contender in our ability to attract the
best and brightest, the most innovative and creative. We are a contender in the
way we have organizations like the Fort McMurray Public Library, groups that
bring people like Bill Cosby to our community to speak. We do not need to say “I
coulda been somebody”. We ARE somebody, and last night an icon of American
comedy and entertainment dropped in to remind us. And we should feel deeply
grateful that he recognized something in us that sometimes we struggle to see.
He saw we are somebody. He saw that we are, in the end, Fort McMurray - and we have every right to be proud to be.
My thanks to the
Fort McMurray Public Library
and
Northern Insights
for the chance to meet Bill Cosby -
and for giving our community the opportunity
to be reminded that we are somebody.
